Today was National Coming Out Day, which I’ve sometimes celebrated over the last few years as Coming Out to Ancestors Day.
I could have had a coming out of another sort today as well: even though my supervisor at work knows I’m queer, and also knows I’m a polytheist, and several others I work with know this, some know I’m queer but don’t know I’m a polytheist (I don’t think I know of anyone who knows I’m a polytheist but not queer, though…?!?). I have been wanting to decorate my (shared) office a little bit, though, because there’s nothing I hate more than blank walls, especially when I can be spending up to seven hours or more a day in such a space. So, I want to put up a picture of Antinous I was recently given, and also a small poster of Panchamukha Hanuman. However, I haven’t yet because I’ve been so busy with actual work in that office that I have barely had time to eat or use the bathroom some days…Hopefully next week, though–likely on Wednesday, as Monday is set to be pretty hectic…
I was also recently approached to perhaps co-advise the campus LGBTQ and allies group, and I said I’d be happy to. The first meeting for the quarter will be Tuesday, but I won’t be able to make it. However, in the meantime, I asked the advisor to send out a message about National Coming Out Day today, and even volunteered to draft it and have her okay it. The advisor wrote back this morning saying “Nope, not possible–messages have to be approved two or three days ahead of time.” Oh…I had no idea, given the large volume of e-mail to my college account daily from all sorts of people. This is one of those situations where well-meaning but clueless heterosexuals who feel better about themselves by “helping” to “support” queer people might end up doing less good than they think…I know there are rules in place over all of this, but at the same time, there was very much a “shut-down” feeling to the rather cold and curt response I got today.
So, it wasn’t much of a “coming out” day for me, in any respect. I sort of feel as if I’ve failed as a result, but I don’t know how much wiggle room I have within my job at present, being it’s pretty tenuous on a variety of levels.
How about y’all: how was your Coming Out Day? Are there things you would like to come out more about, but haven’t been able to thus far?
(I will not have much e-mail contact between now and Monday evening, as I have an event to attend over the weekend, and much of Friday, and all of Sunday evening and Monday until noon will be spent traveling back and forth. If I’m slow to getting to comments or responding meanwhile, that’s why.)